Threats, Power Misuse, & Control
What symptoms below fit your life?
Using Emotional Abuse
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Putting the other person down
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Making the other person feel bad about themselves
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Calling the other person names
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Making the other person think they are crazy
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Playing mind games
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Humiliating the other person
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Making the other person feel guilty
Using Privileges
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Treating the other person like a servant
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Making all the big decisions
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Acting like the master of the castle
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Being the 1 who determines the roles
Using Economic Abuse
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Preventing the other person from getting or keeping a job
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Making the other person ask for money
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Giving the other person an allowance
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Taking the other person's money
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Not letting the other person know about or have access to family income
Using Coercion & Threats
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Making or carrying out threats to do something to hurt the other person
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Threatening to leave the other person, to commit suicide, report the other person to welfare
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Making the other person drop charges
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Making the other person do illegal things
Using Intimidation
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Making the other person afraid by using looks, gestures, or actions
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Smashing things
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Abusing pets
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Displaying weapons
Using Children
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Making the other person feel guilty about the children
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Using the children to relay messages
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Using visitation to harass the other person
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Threatening to take the children away
Using Isolation
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Controlling what the other person does, who they see and talk to, what's read, and where they go
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Limiting their outside involvement
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Using jealousy to justify actions
Minimizing, Denying, Blaming
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Making light of the abuse and not taking the other person's concerns about it seriously
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Saying the abuse never happened
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Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior
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Saying the other person caused it
Has Any of the Following Ever Happened to You?
Does your partner:
- Blame everyone else especially you, for his or her mistakes?
- Prevent you from seeing your family or friends?
- Curse you, say mean things, mock you or humiliate you?
- Force you to have sex or force you to engage in sex that makes you feel uncomfortable?
- Restrain, hit, punch, slap, or kick you?
- Intimidate or threaten you?
- Ever prevent you from leaving the house, getting a job, or continuing your education?
If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship